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Changing the Culture Clothing Project

Why Do We Need the Clothing Project?

The purpose of the Clothing Project is not to discourage modesty or to belittle those who choose to dress conservatively. The Clothing Project graphically and viscerally demonstrates that modesty does not protect people from sexual assault.

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Supporting Victims

Is it Verbal Porn?

You do not need specific and/or graphic details to support a survivor. It is, in fact, extremely harmful to the survivor and could even indicate something very toxic about you. Some professionals refer to it as “verbal porn”.

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Supporting Victims

Truth and Advocacy

As good, ethical advocates, we must ALWAYS stick to the truth, and we must encourage our clients to stick to the truth. It’s OK, if a client does not remember something specific, for them to simply say, “I do not remember.”

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Counseling

The Importance of Education

In this day and age, there is no excuse for this level of ignorance.

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Supporting Victims

When You Find Out About a Survivor

Watch your tongue and mind your typing or texting fingers.

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Personal Accounts

Why I Don’t Trust Child Molesters

Somehow the preachers found out. My parents were informed.

They set about to “protect” me by treating me as a prisoner virtually.

HE wasn’t treated like the prisoner. I was.

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Counseling

Too Many Details?

No matter how low you feel about what you’ve done, nobody should use your story for sexual gratification. You do NOT need to relive every detail in order to successfully turn from your sin, and find forgiveness.

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Counseling

The Case for Professional Help

If you really care about people, start encouraging them to go to qualified, trauma-trained counselors if they have experienced trauma and abuse.

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Counseling

Beware of the Gurus

Abuse of any kind can and often does damage the brain in documentable ways. There are trained counselors who understand how to gently work with a person to bring help and hope to them. Self-appointed gurus and/or counseling centers are NOT those people or places.