Dr. Tara Mitchell and Mary Byler are conducting research on experiences of child sexual abuse, particularly in conservative religious groups like the Anabaptists. They have worked with others to create a survey about child sexual abuse.
You do not need specific and/or graphic details to support a survivor. It is, in fact, extremely harmful to the survivor and could even indicate something very toxic about you. Some professionals refer to it as “verbal porn”.
As good, ethical advocates, we must ALWAYS stick to the truth, and we must encourage our clients to stick to the truth. It’s OK, if a client does not remember something specific, for them to simply say, “I do not remember.”
In this day and age, there is no excuse for this level of ignorance.
We are well aware that we are likely to have those in attendance who are survivors of sexual abuse and assault.
Because of that, we always try to make even our general public events be survivor friendly in a variety of ways.
No matter how low you feel about what you’ve done, nobody should use your story for sexual gratification. You do NOT need to relive every detail in order to successfully turn from your sin and find forgiveness.
No matter how low you feel about what you’ve done, nobody should use your story for sexual gratification. You do NOT need to relive every detail in order to successfully turn from your sin, and find forgiveness.
If you really care about people, start encouraging them to go to qualified, trauma-trained counselors if they have experienced trauma and abuse.
Abuse of any kind can and often does damage the brain in documentable ways. There are trained counselors who understand how to gently work with a person to bring help and hope to them. Self-appointed gurus and/or counseling centers are NOT those people or places.
A warning to those who think they can and should “investigate” allegations of child abuse.